Steve Wilcox | |
Hi, I'm Steve Wilcox
I am a work from home dad... I write books and counsel people about how to be happy (also relationships, love, overcoming depression, stress etc, etc, etc).
It seems to me that most people try to live their lives backwards.
With my clients (and myself until I discovered Trioga) I've found that the overall plan they have for living a successful life goes something like this:
- Figure out how to survive in the world. You know, the basics like food, shelter, clothing and physical safety.
- Find a good job so they can earn plenty of money.
- Find the "perfect" spouse to "make them feel loved and happy"
- Convert the money to "stuff" because having lots of "stuff", like houses, cars, furniture, lawn mowers, nice clothes, barbecues, and so on is how one gets to be happy, isn't it??? That's what everyone else is so busy doing... so it must be, right?
- Acheive "Nirvana" once you have enough stuff, kids, the perfect spouse and the perfect job and the perfect "life" then all suffering (stress) will somehow magically stop and you'll get to be deliriously happy... success = happiness = love (or something like that).
The only problem is what if you never get enough money? Or what if it takes 70 years?
Now when I suggest pretty much reversing that... starting with being deliriously happy, deeply loved and totally successful and then chasing after all that money so you can convert it into "stuff"... well, I get the strangest looks???
So I'm wondering what your experience or strategy for living life might be??? Especially, since you are working from home and, if you're anything like me, it's probably difficult to keep your personal and work life separated.
And if you had choose between being rich and unhappy or being poor and happy, (which you do) which would you choose?
In reality, you do have to make that choice because if you choose happiness first you won't have as much time and energy to devote to chasing money... yes, you may still end up with lot's of it, but it'll take longer.
[I have chosen poor and happy... I used to create and build large companies, like telephone companies, but I wasn't happy doing that... so I gave it up. Now I'm far, far happier helping others find more love and happiness for themselves than I ever was trying figure out how to get more money out of people's pockets, but I'm poor (relatively speaking).]
So would you care to share your thoughts about the "best" strategy for living... forwards, backwards, or something else? And would you rather be rich and unhappy or poor and happy??
As for me, I think of it this way:
"I'd rather enjoy life's entire journey than the 10 seconds of glory I might get from striking it rich."
Please feel free to browse my web site to learn more about being happy first (check out the free "articles").
visit www.trioga.com
Best wishes for you on your journey,
Steve Wilcox
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Brian Fanale | | Why do you have to make a choice like that??? And it simply is a choice??? You're choosing either to be happy and poor or rich and sad, why? Why would you not choose to be happy and rich, you deserve it in every sense of the words!!!
It's simply a decision. Of course everyone would like to be happy, but why would you associate happy with being poor? It doesn't have to be like that, it was never meant to be like that! I don't understand why anyone would ever say such a thing, because then that becomes their reality...
I was once poor and happy too until I found out what I was doing, my thoughts, my actions, everything I was doing was getting me those results. I now get to work from home a few hours a day and I've generated more money in a week than the avg. Amercian makes in a year! I completely love what I do, I'm the happiest I've ever been and it gets better ever day, and I've made more money in the past year than I've made in my entire life.
It's simply a choice, like everything in life. You can do it too, if you desire it...
-Brian Fanale
www.millionairemindsets.com
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Steve Wilcox | | I guess I didn't communicate my intention very clearly...
I said IF you had to make a choice...
Because I agree with Brian wholeheartedly about having both riches and happiness (the best option).
It just seems to me that many people (a majority even) tend to be on the path of first creating wealth and then worrying about being happy later, in that order. First one, then the other.
I think it's much better to be happy while you're working towards financial success (which is not necessarily the same as success in life) because then you'll have a great life even if you don't get the riches you dream of.
Happiness FIRST ... financial success SECOND.
Of course, if your already financially successful then that's great... being happy and rich is indeed the best of both worlds.
Cheers and "Live happily, it's better than the alternative!"
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